Tuesday, October 3, 2017
There's a lot of requests to "just love" in the past couple days.
This is popular when there is a tragedy, whether it's a large scale disaster, or something that just hits local or home. Notice the word "just" is put in front of the word "love" to indicate that it really is a simple thing, that it really needs to happen, and that it will really make all the difference.
I don't think it's surprising that this request comes in droves when a major tragedy occurs. Not at all. Nor do I think it is somehow wrong or inappropriate. We are touched and moved in various ways by these occurrences, and so it seems natural o reach out in this way.
But why aren't we doing this every day regardless of circumstances? Why aren't we doing less talking and more listening in the first place -- and in all places and for all people? Why do we wait until a terrible thing that showed us what a lack of love and conscience looks like, to remember to "just love?"
What does your "just love" look like? What does it mean? Are certain individuals or groups left out? You see, if our "just love" is meant to invoke a loving change or a change for more love, then it begins with you, me, the person stating it -- not "them," or over there somewhere. If your "just love" is meant as a plea or a reminder for people to change their hearts and minds, this must also apply to you. Otherwise it is an empty plea.
"Just love" doesn't mean that you have to start agreeing with everybody. What it looks like (if you actually want change) is the willingness to hear people that may think or act or look differently than you. It's real easy and a cop-out from your statement to "just love" the same people that you just loved the day before the tragedy. There is absolutely no change in that. So when the dust settles from the current tragedy, guess what we have! We have the same thing we had before the tragedy -- the very thing that we said we didn't want to see any more of.
Is your "just love" just words, or is it a jump into action?
Do you have a plan to include those you left out before? I think that most of us know that one of the best ways we can show love and respect for another is to give them our attention and consideration. When we minimize, ignore, or ridicule another person's experience based off of the simple, and simple-minded, fact that it is different from our own, that is absolutely not "just love." It is, at its least, thoughtless. At its most, it shows up as tragedy in various forms and depths.
So the next time you broadcast "just love" as a mend, please make sure it's not "just words." Love is, after all, a verb, too.
Friday, September 29, 2017
When one is uplifted, so are we all. Equality does not mean that someone loses something in order for someone else to gain equal footing. Equality shouldn't be feared, yet it is. Fear of losing something is what drives a lot of people to refuse to respect and hear about another person's experience/s that is different from their own. So I'll say it again: When one is uplifted, so are we all.